Let Go of Your Past to Heat Up Your Present
by Jennifer Hunt & Dan Baritchi
Authors of SheKnows.com Presents -- The Best Sex of Your Life: 10 Secrets Every Woman Should Know
Though we'd all prefer this not be the case, most couples have to deal with the emotional baggage left over from their partners' previous relationships. How do you deal with the vast array of emotions that surface because of the last guy you lived with or the last girl he loved? What happens when these feelings are negative and self-destructive?
Whether you're in your first or your fiftieth serious relationship, feelings of jealousy ("Why does he still have lunch with her? He should know how that makes me feel!") and insecurity ("His previous girlfriends were all much thinner than I am. I wonder if he thinks I'm fat? He must only be with me until he can find a girl he's really attracted to.") can cause a lot of stress. Part of your worry is wrapped up in your desire to have control over how your partner acts, especially if you feel that he might not act in accordance with your own standards and needs.
HE SAYS . . .
A quick tip: If you are feeling jealous, ask yourself if your partner truly gave you reason to doubt his commitment to you. Is he playing games to try and make you jealous, or could it be that something from the past is rearing its head and making you afraid your guy could leave or cheat?
Dealing with It
So what do you need to know? Well, you need to realize that you cannot control your partner. He is an independent being with free will, and worrying about the hidden meanings behind his words or what he is doing when you're not around will only drive you crazy and drive him away. Today, the fact that people sometimes feel as though they own their partners is the real reason behind the fear, anger, jealousy, and insecurity that many people may experience. The best thing to do is to just allow other people to be themselves and love them for who they are and not who you want them to be. After all, unconditional acceptance from your partner -- both in and out of the bedroom -- is a great aphrodisiac for both of you.
Let It Go
Here's a little tip: By accepting that your partner has had lovers before you and by letting go of any jealousy and insecurity that you have tied to that or tied to your own experiences in past relationships, you can move on and reap the benefits of your present relationship. Perhaps your partner learned a great position or two from a former sexual escapade or he grasped how to overcome some emotional or sexual issues within that relationship so you don't have to now be burdened with them. All of this knowledge and experience will benefit you in the bedroom as you're treated to a more skilled partner who understands his own needs and who can better address yours.
The above is an excerpt from the book SheKnows.com Presents -- The Best Sex of Your Life: 10 Secrets Every Woman Should Know by Jennifer Hunt & Dan Baritchi. The above excerpt is a digitally scanned reproduction of text from print. Although this excerpt has been proofread, occasional errors may appear due to the scanning process. Please refer to the finished book for accuracy.
Copyright © 2010 Jennifer Hunt & Dan Baritchi, authors of SheKnows.com Presents -- The Best Sex of Your Life: 10 Secrets Every Woman Should Know
Book Description:
Because SHEKNOWS® Sex
In SheKnows.com Presents: The Best Sex of Your Life, noted sex experts Jennifer and Dan reveal 101 salacious secrets for delightful encounters between the sheets. You have sex; and sure, it's okay, maybe occasionally even good. But with this new guide they help you kick it up a notch to have the best sex every time.
Featuring plenty of tips guaranteed to make you blush, you'll learn to get in touch with your inner seductress for orgasmic results. Among the secrets revealed -- why you should . . .
•Have sex in front of a mirror
•Learn to use all four phases of the female orgasm
•Watch porn with your man
•Try some new positions -- like the bridge or lotus
•Use household items (hello spatula and rolling pin!) during foreplay
If you're tired of bland, predictable sex, this insider's roadmap to a more satisfying ride will have you screaming with pleasure and spending the day (or week . . . or month!) in bed.
About the Authors:
Jennifer Hunt and Dan Baritchi, authors of SheKnows.com Presents -- The Best Sex of Your Life: 10 Secrets Every Woman Should Know, are the founders and senior editors of http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/, which has become the premier website about relationships and sexuality on the Internet. The site has more than 400,000 readers per month. In addition, Hunt and Baritchi are featured content providers for YouTube, Revver, and Veoh. Their more than 300 videos receive between 2-4 million views every month. They have consulted for shows ranging from Dr. Phil to EXTRA and have been quoted in publications from the Chicago Sun-Times to the Miami Herald. They live in Frisco, TX.
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Here's What I Think:
When I saw that this was written by a Woman and a Man I was a little trepidations about reading it. It seems that a book like this would only be readable from one gender perspective. I was sooo wrong! Really the book is written from Jennifer's perspective, while Dan adds his two cents every so often. My favorite part of the book is the "sex myths", where they debunk some very common stereotypes regarding a healthy sex-life. Though there are some very specific sexual topics, a lot of the book focuses on a better you. Having confidence, knowing what you want and need, and having a strong sense of self are all topics discussed. Really it is a relationship book, and for me a healthy happy sexual relationship is a huge part of any partnership. I think this book could offer help to newlyweds and golden anniversary celebrants alike. A great book to share with your partner.
Disclaimer: Althought I did recieve a copy of this book from FSB Associates I was in no other way compensated to publish this post.
Does it still work if you have been with your partner for 15 years? Maybe I should get it!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm....where is your review? Perhaps too busy to write one once you got this book? Hee hee!!!
ReplyDeleteLOL - Julie - Don't you just love when your final save doesn't actually save! Ugh! Well it is there now!
ReplyDeleteGotta love it when that happens! LOL
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